12 Expert Solutions for Your Everyday Friendship Problems

Broken promises

Friends are crucial, and every woman should have these eight types of friends in her life. Jan Yager, PhD, friendship coach, sociologist, and author of When Friendship Hurts and Friendshifts often hears from people who’ve been hurt by a friend’s broken promise: someone canceled plans at the last minute or declined to attend an important party. Dr. Yager likes to point out we don’t have formal contracts with friends where we’ve agreed to never abandon, betray or disappoint each other. “If you bring a fantasy about what the ideal friend will do in any situation to a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment,” says Dr. Yager. She has an example from her own life: “When my dad passed away, a friend didn’t go to the funeral. Rather than fume, pull away and be angry, I decided to casually ask her why. I said, ‘I was surprised not to see you at my dad’s funeral. It’s OK, I’m just curious.'” Turns out that her friend’s dad recently passed away too and she just couldn’t handle another funeral. “Never in a million years would I have guessed what was going on.”

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